HUMAN NETWORK: I Bullied an Unlikely Victim

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Who Made Me Regret It —

As the author of the humorous children’s novel The Annoying Ghost Kid, I am occasionally invited to make an author visit to an elementary school. I’ve developed a 3-part program that includes an animated reading from my book; an interactive lesson in how the creative process of writing a story works; and, since the book is about a ghost who bullies 2 living kids, I share some techniques for dealing with a bully.

The anti-bullying techniques I share are simple and designed to be easy to remember even in the unexpected moment of a bully attack. There is one for verbal attacks and one for physical attacks, both of which are peaceful and positive, yet still enable the victims to stand up for themselves without escalating the aggression.

Today, I’m writing about my technique for physical attacks.

I begin by explaining that most bullies want an easy victim, someone who is going to cry and run away. They don’t want to bully someone who will fight back. Bullies are cowards at heart because they themselves are afraid. They don’t believe anyone likes them; they feel worthless; and think that if they bully someone it will make them feel important.

I go on to say: if someone hits you, shoves you, trips you, or tries to hurt you in any other way, I want you to immediately face them, throw out the palm of your hand like a traffic cop signaling “Stop,” and yell as loud as you can, “BACK OFF!” All while giving them a squinty-eyed stare which you hold for a long moment. Then continue on your way as if nothing happened. What this will do is make your bully think twice about attacking you again. It will make them think that you are tougher than they thought. You don’t have to believe it, you only have to make them believe it.

Now I’d like to illustrate how well this works by sharing a story with you of a time that I bullied someone. You see, I was once guilty of bullying a snake, but it was an accident and I didn’t realize I was being a bully until he told me.

It happened several years ago when I went with some friends to visit the Civil War battlefield at Kennesaw Mountain State Park near Atlanta, Georgia. We arrived at the park and started walking across a large grass covered field. Nearby was a bronze historical marker, so we headed toward it to read about the events that took place on the battleground spreading out before us. As we approached, we saw what looked like a coil of black cable, glistening in a spot of sunshine on the ground in front of the sign. When we got closer, the cable uncoiled itself and slithered off about 20 feet away.

It was a beautiful black snake that was very thick and nearly 8 feet long. I recognized it as being either a black racer or a black rat snake, both of which are non-poisonous and like open grassy areas. It was such a pretty snake that I just wanted to get a better look. I followed it over to where it stopped, but when I got within 10 feet, it slithered off again another 20 feet.

I paused and figured that if I kept following, it would simply keep slithering away, so I thought, I’m smarter than a snake, I’ll just circle around and approach from the opposite direction.

Crouching low as I walked, so it wouldn’t see me, I got within 3 feet of it. I completely startled it. It reared up about 2 feet in the air, flattened its neck out making it look like a cobra, then it opened its mouth and hissed very loudly. That in turn startled me. I leapt backwards farther than I’ve ever jumped before and nearly fell on my backside. Now, I don’t know if you speak snake or not, but I can understand, “BACK OFF” in any language. So, I decided it was time to leave that snake alone, and rejoin my friends.

As I said, I knew that snake wasn’t poisonous, and if it bit me that it wouldn’t hurt more than giving me a small cut, but even so, when it hissed at me, it sure did make me think twice. That’s all you have to do with a bully, make him have doubts. Make him think you will be more trouble than it’s worth. This technique isn’t just for kids; it also works for adults. I have a friend who has successfully used this technique while riding the subways in New York City. If you know of someone who is bullied, please share this article with them.

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About Author

Robert Evans Wilson, Jr. is an award-winning speaker, marketing strategist, author, and coach. Rob is the author of the internationally syndicated column on human motivation, “The Un-Comfort Zone”, which runs in more than 400 publications. His efforts have earned 8 SouthStar Awards from the American Marketing Association. For more information, please visit http://www.jumpstartyourmeeting.com.

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